How old are you?

When did you reach puberty?

Now count — how many Ramadans have you had?
Or better: how many Ramadans has Allah ALLOWED you to have?

How many of them were actually successful?
Without losing momentum in the last days. Without wasting even Eid away.

And how many Ramadans do you think you still have before you die — with the regret of not using even one properly?

Because it’s not only Ramadan that we waste.
It’s Shawwal. Dhul Qi’dah. Dhul Hijjah.
You get the idea.

We are wasting our lives drenched in ghaflah.

And Ramadan comes to wake us up.
To forgive us.
To refresh our hearts.
To save us from Jahannam and make us from the people of Jannah.

And Allah gave us a night…

Wallahi — this is not a chance to miss.

Especially when no Ramadan, no week, no day is ever promised to us.

This is the first Newsletter of my New Tazkiyah series, welcome!

We set goals we are not ready for.

We compare ourselves:

“I’m not as good as person X with Qur’an.”
“I’m not consistent enough.”
“I always fail.”

And slowly we lose motivation before we even start.

But listen carefully while I hold your hand:

You were never meant to become someone else.

The Sahaba were not copies of each other.
Each one acted according to their strength, their life, their capacity.

Allah never asked you to become Umar in one month.
Or Abu Bakr in one year.

Allah is giving you:

• forgiveness
• mercy
• a fresh start
• a night better than 1000 months

Not a comparison competition.

Take inspiration — yes.
But stop chasing other people’s lives.

Analyse your life on 3 Levels:

Are you married?
Do you have kids?
Do you work full-time?
Do you run a business?

These are your non-negotiables.

Work hours.
Household.
Cooking before Maghrib.
Kids’ needs.

This is your real schedule — not the fantasy one.

And here’s the secret: change your niyyah.

“Ya Allah, I’m cooking for my family for Your sake.
I’m feeding them so they have strength to worship You.
Thank You for this rizq, this home, this chaos, this blessing.”

Your daily life can become worship.

Ask honestly:

Where do I really stand with Allah right now?

And start TODAY.

Not tomorrow.
Not after Ramadan.
Not when life is perfect.

Allah sees effort.
Allah rewards struggle.
Allah puts barakah in small steps.

One ayah today.
Two tomorrow.
A page soon.

Micro habits change lives.

This is the core of Ramadan: taqwa.

Taqwa is not only prayer.

It’s:

• your scrolling
• your money
• your behaviour
• your family treatment
• your manners
• your honesty
• your anger
• your mercy

Even the smile you give.

Small good deeds soften the heart.
They build taqwa slowly — but powerfully.

Take paper and pen.

Answer:

• Where am I personally?
• Where am I religiously?
• Where am I internally?

Then set ONE realistic goal for each:

Personal:
Change niyyah in chores, dhikr while working, patience with kids.

Deen:
One ayah daily, 100 istighfar, one prayer on time more.

Character:
Less anger, faster forgiveness, kinder words, more smiling.

Private between you and Allah if you can.

If you do dhikr 3x a week → go to 4x.
If you read Qur’an sometimes → keep it small but consistent.
If you struggle with manners → start there (it’s Sunnah!).

Burnout comes from unrealistic worship.
Barakah comes from sustainable worship.

Ramadan is to transform your life after Ramadan too.

Dua.
Dua.
Dua.

Ask Allah constantly:

“Ya Allah help me change.”
“Ya Allah make worship easy.”
“Ya Allah keep me consistent.”

Wallahi with His help — you CAN do this.

Since this newsletter was rather kept short, there are so many more topics to come in shaa Allah that are important to discuss. I have written several posts already, read here about Ghaflah and here about tawbah.

And to reflect deeper on worship, check out this newsletter, in shaa Allah.

I will leave you with this for now and I would love to hear your thoughts on this! Just reply to this email so we can chat, in shaa Allah.

Until then, Ill leave you

في امان الله _{(in the protection of Allah)}

❦ Dunja ❦